Note: This is the first in a series of articles on happiness. The series will cover what happiness is, how it can be measured, how different parts of our lives effect our happiness, and finally, some specific ways that happiness can be increased.
How would you define happiness? Is it an emotion? A state of mind? A decision? Is it a reaction to things that happen to us, like pain, or is it something we can create ourselves? It's tough to define happiness, because it's a very abstract, subjective concept. Whatever it is though, it's a powerful motivator - almost everything we do is motivated by how much happiness we think we'll get from it.
Even though happiness has such a big role in our lives, we don't seem to spend much time thinking about what it is. Most people just take it for granted, but others haven't been satisfied with that; philosophers have been pondering on happiness for thousands of years, and in the last couple of decades, scientists have been studying it too. All of this work has given new insight into what happiness is, why it's there, and most importantly, how to get it.
Everyone intuitively knows what happiness feels like, and people are also quite good at telling you what will make them happy. Try asking them. You'll probably get responses involving money or the opposite sex, but if you're lucky you might get a more thoughtful response. If you're very lucky, you might get some good ideas for future Christmas presents. If you ask what happiness actually is, however, you get less detailed replies and the occasional blank face. People don't ponder this, because it doesn't seem like useful information for everyday life.
So what is it?
Well for starters, there's a strong element of subjectivity to happiness. Different things elicit it for different people. Listening to 80s power ballads might make me happy, but not you.
OK bad example, everybody loves power ballads. But you get my point. So when trying to form a definition of happiness, it's best not to focus on the specifics of what causes it in different people there'd be too much information to make sense of any of it. Instead, we have to look at what all these different things have in common.
The most obvious commonality is pleasure. If you find bike rides, massages or films pleasurable, then you'd probably agree that these things make you happy. Also if you think of the last time you were really happy, you'd probably say it was pleasurable. But pleasure isn't always a short-lived thing (no matter what my ex-girlfriend might tell you). You could distinguish between short-term but intense pleasure, like elation or excitement, and more enduring but less intense feelings, like contentedness, relaxation, or feeling at peace.
And what's the hidden commonality behind these two types of pleasure? It's that something, or things in general, are going better than might be expected, or better than some alternative. So it seems reasonable, to include pleasant feelings somewhere in the definition of happiness. I mean, it's hard to imagine the opposite, pain, being part of it. Or is it? Can you think of an example of when a person could be in pain but be happy? (That doesn't involve PVC and whips, thank you very much...) What about if a climber fell off a cliff but survived? He might be in great pain while he recovered in hospital, but at the same time be happy to be alive.
More than a Feeling
The man who survives falling off a cliff can't feelhappiness at the same time as the agonising pain, but on judgement, comparing his situation to a grim alternative, he might be happy with it. Thereare many other examples and counter-examples you might think of, but one thing seems clear; you can be happy without feeling happy. Look at it this way; if I say 'I am happy to see you!', I'm talking about a feeling (well, either that or I'm lying). If I say 'I am happy with my life', I'm not talking about a feeling, I'm making a judgement.
Why? Because I can completely experience the event 'seeing you', whereas I can't experience 'all my life' at once. All I can do is compare all the positive feelings I tend to have with all the negative feelings I experience. Or maybe I'd compare my current situation with some expectation I hold. Either way, my happiness when seeing you is something, it exists in some physical way. My happiness with my life does not exist as such; it only reflects things that do exist (or did).
It's not really a valid question to say which one of positive feelings or positive judgements 'is' happiness; they are different levels of the same thing.
If you define happiness as a feeling, you would conclude that happiness is erratic; shifting up and down, minute-by-minute, in response to whatever is going on (or not going on). Your conclusion would be correct, but limited, because you would not know whether a person is happy with all the ups and downs.
For example, one couple in a volatile relationship might like the drama. Another couple might enjoy a relatively boring but stress-free life. But on balance, both couples might be equally happy.